The Dynamics of Infidelity:
For individuals in the U.S. & U.S. territories
In this groundbreaking book, Lawrence Josephs argues for a new understanding of the psychological foundations of "cheating."
Relationships are complicated. And as many therapists know, infidelity is a distressingly common issue for romantic couples. Unfortunately, most psychotherapy approaches tend to see infidelity as a manifestation of broader underlying problems and rarely offer insights or interventions to specifically address unfaithfulness and the impulses behind it.
Drawing on research in social, personality, and evolutionary psychology that examines the crucial roles of attachment theory and "dark" personality traits such as narcissism and low empathy, Josephs offers a complex but intuitive model that explains how and when intimate relationships work, and don't work.
His integrative and compassionate approach to treatment is grounded in psychodynamic principles, yet uses interventions from a variety of approaches, including mentalization-based therapies, emotion-focused therapy, marital communication skills training, and mindfulness/acceptance techniques.
This book is a thought-provoking read for individual, family, and couples therapists seeking insights on how to address infidelity in their practice.
- To Cheat or Not to Cheat? The Evolution of Fidelity and Infidelity
- Too Close for Comfort: Attachment Style and Infidelity
- The Wandering Eyes of Men and Women: Sex Differences in Motivations for Infidelity
- Fatal Attractions: The Dark Triad and Infidelity
- Am I Sexually Desirable? Fidelity and Infidelity as Proof of Mate Value
- Sexual Possessiveness and Jealousy: The Psychology of Retaliatory Infidelity
- When the Best Sex Is Extramarital: Infidelity Throughout the Life Span
- The Problem of Begrudging Partner Sharing: When Cheaters Won't Leave Their Spouses
- Boys Gone Wild: Can Infidelity Be a Symptom of Sex Addiction?
- Marital Communication Styles That Predict Betrayal
Conclusion: Why People Remain Faithful
About the Author
Lawrence Josephs, PhD, is a professor of psychology at the Gordon F. Derner Institute of Advanced Psychological Studies of Adelphi University.
Dr. Josephs has been an editor at the International Journal of Psychoanalysis, book reviewer for Psychoanalytic Psychology, and a manuscript reviewer for Clinical Psychology and Psychotherapy. He has published articles in Archives of Sexual Behavior, Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy, Self and Identity, International Journal of Psychoanalysis, Psychoanalytic Psychology, Psychoanalytic Dialogues, Contemporary Psychoanalysis, Journal of the American Psychoanalytic Association, and Psychodynamic Psychiatry.
In 2015 The New York Times published an op-ed piece written by Dr. Josephs called "When the Best Sex is Extra-Marital."
Dr. Josephs has a private practice of individual and couples psychotherapy in New York City.